{"id":824,"date":"2012-05-13T15:16:48","date_gmt":"2012-05-13T12:16:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/?p=824"},"modified":"2012-05-28T10:35:07","modified_gmt":"2012-05-28T07:35:07","slug":"when-you-dont-feel-like-being-a-mother","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/when-you-dont-feel-like-being-a-mother\/","title":{"rendered":"When You don&#8217;t Feel Like being a Mother"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The birthrate in our church is rising and that means I get asked to speak at baby showers a lot more often. &nbsp;In the past week and a half I spoke at two! &nbsp;Below are a few pictures from our latest baby shower. &nbsp;This is Alona&#8217;s second and this time it&#8217;s a girl!<\/p>\n\n\t\t<style type=\"text\/css\">\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 {\n\t\t\t\tmargin: auto;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-item {\n\t\t\t\tfloat: left;\n\t\t\t\tmargin-top: 10px;\n\t\t\t\ttext-align: center;\n\t\t\t\twidth: 25%;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 img {\n\t\t\t\tborder: 2px solid #cfcfcf;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-caption {\n\t\t\t\tmargin-left: 0;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t\/* see gallery_shortcode() in wp-includes\/media.php *\/\n\t\t<\/style>\n\t\t<div data-carousel-extra='{&quot;blog_id&quot;:1,&quot;permalink&quot;:&quot;https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/when-you-dont-feel-like-being-a-mother\/&quot;}' id='gallery-1' class='gallery galleryid-824 gallery-columns-4 gallery-size-thumbnail'><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/DSC08688.jpg'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/DSC08688-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"\" data-attachment-id=\"825\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/when-you-dont-feel-like-being-a-mother\/sony-dsc-27\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/DSC08688.jpg\" data-orig-size=\"640,359\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;3.5&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;Picasa&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;NEX-3&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1336852436&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;18&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;1600&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.033333333333333&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;SONY DSC&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"A couple of ladies at the Baby Shower\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/DSC08688.jpg\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt><\/dl><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/DSC08719.jpg'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/DSC08719-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"\" data-attachment-id=\"826\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/when-you-dont-feel-like-being-a-mother\/sony-dsc-28\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/DSC08719.jpg\" data-orig-size=\"640,361\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;3.5&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;Picasa&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;NEX-3&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1336857481&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;18&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;640&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.033333333333333&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;SONY DSC&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Alyona, our guest of Honor (cake says &amp;#8220;Dasha&amp;#8221;, the name of their baby girl)\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/DSC08719.jpg\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt><\/dl><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/DSC08732.jpg'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/DSC08732-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"\" data-attachment-id=\"827\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/when-you-dont-feel-like-being-a-mother\/sony-dsc-29\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/DSC08732.jpg\" data-orig-size=\"640,360\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;3.5&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;Picasa&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;NEX-3&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1336857841&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;18&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;800&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.033333333333333&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;SONY DSC&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"All the guests could barely squeeze in the picture!\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/DSC08732.jpg\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt><\/dl><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/DSC08713.jpg'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/DSC08713-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"\" data-attachment-id=\"828\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/when-you-dont-feel-like-being-a-mother\/sony-dsc-30\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/DSC08713.jpg\" data-orig-size=\"640,361\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;3.5&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;Picasa&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;NEX-3&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1336856432&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;18&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;1600&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.04&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;SONY DSC&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Alyona and her sister-in-law who is also expecting!\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/DSC08713.jpg\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt><\/dl><br style=\"clear: both\" \/>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n<p>I encouraged the women to love their children regardless of how they may feel or what their child may do. &nbsp;In my experience as a mother of five I know this is not always the easiest thing to do.<\/p>\n<p>Babies are cute and it&#8217;s easy to love that little pudgy slobbering face. In fact almost everything they do in the first 4 months of life evokes smiles and &#8220;oohs&#8221; and &#8220;aahs&#8221;. &nbsp;Unfortunately the cute phase is temporary but mothering is for a life time! &nbsp;It didn&#8217;t take me long after my first child to realize that sometimes I need to make a conscious choice to&nbsp;love and mother my child.<\/p>\n<p>The truth is it takes less than a year for those innocent darlings to learn to defy their parents and &nbsp;throw tantrums that turn every head in the mall our direction! &nbsp;So what do we do when our child no longer evokes tender feelings of love and &nbsp;joy? &nbsp; It is vital that we remember God&#8217;s love for us. &nbsp;He didn&#8217;t love us because we were cute or cuddly rather he loved us in our sin and rebellion! &nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/bible.us\/rom5.8.esv\" target=\"_blank\">(Romans 5:8)<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Our relationship with our children is a picture of our relationship with God. &nbsp;The wonderful thing is that God never stops loving us despite repeated mistakes on our part. As a result we grow and we also learn to love God. &nbsp;There are many examples in the Old and New Testament of how God patiently loved His children. &nbsp;At times He gently warned them and at times He punished them but He never stopped loving them.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Question: What helps you get through when you don&#8217;t feel like being a mother?<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The birthrate in our church is rising and that means I get asked to speak at baby showers a lot more often.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":828,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[8],"tags":[112,68,113,110,111,114],"class_list":["post-824","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-ministry","tag-baby-shower","tag-children","tag-love","tag-mothers-day","tag-mothering","tag-parenting"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/DSC08713.jpg","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p3izZc-di","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":3933,"url":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/28-wisdom-from-262-years-of-motherhood\/","url_meta":{"origin":824,"position":0},"title":"#28 Wisdom From 262 Years of Motherhood","author":"Caleb Suko","date":"May 10, 2014","format":false,"excerpt":"In honor of Mother's Day I sat down with a woman who has a 262 (the combined ages of all her children) years of mothering wisdom to share! 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