{"id":4360,"date":"2014-09-10T17:57:07","date_gmt":"2014-09-10T14:57:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/?p=4360"},"modified":"2014-09-10T18:47:54","modified_gmt":"2014-09-10T15:47:54","slug":"i-have-two-moms-and-ive-got-two-dads-honey-maid-wholesome","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/i-have-two-moms-and-ive-got-two-dads-honey-maid-wholesome\/","title":{"rendered":"I Have Two Moms and I&#8217;ve got Two Dads -Honey Maid Wholesome"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Yesterday I came across this video from <a href=\"http:\/\/www.honeymaid.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Honey Maid<\/a>, a company that is known for its Graham Crackers and whose tag line is &#8220;This Is Wholesome!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The video shows &#8220;wholesome&#8221; scenes of a boy named Issac with his family at home, praying at the table and playing with his siblings. Beautifully captured clips of children running and enjoying moments with their family at the beach are infused with glimmers of filtered sunlight and backdropped by uplifting strains of music.<\/p>\n<p>The entire video feels like it&#8217;s giving you a warm heartfelt hug! You just feel good after watching it!<\/p>\n<p>But there&#8217;s a problem!<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/5X592lJ-JnM?rel=0\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Early on Isaac describes his family saying &#8220;I have two moms and I&#8217;ve got two dads.&#8221; It turns out that Isaac&#8217;s birth parents broke their wedding vows, left each other and started separate families! It&#8217;s clear that Isaac struggled with this at first but now he seems to be doing OK.<\/p>\n<p>As the video comes to a close there is a long shot of Isaac with his four parents and his siblings. The text reads:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;No matter how families change, what makes them wholesome never will.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;This is wholesome.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>While I hope that Isaac grows up to be a fine\u00a0young man and I believe that in God&#8217;s grace that can happen. There are several things about this video that disturb me!<\/p>\n<h4>Who is defining wholesome?<\/h4>\n<p>It seems that Honey Maid is trying to redefine the term wholesome.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.merriam-webster.com\/dictionary\/wholesome\" target=\"_blank\">Miriam-Webster<\/a> defines wholesome as:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;Morally good or suggesting good health or behavior&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>So what is wholesome about breaking vows, tearing a family apart and then expecting the child caught between the tug-a-war of selfishness to thrive because he&#8217;s loved?<\/p>\n<p>Maybe Honey Maid wants to redefine wholesome because they&#8217;ve built their graham cracker snacks around the slogan &#8220;This is wholesome.&#8221; However, a quick look at the ingredients reveals a snack that mainly consists of white flour and refined sugar. That doesn&#8217;t suggest health to me!<\/p>\n<h4>What makes a family wholesome?<\/h4>\n<p>Honey Maid claims that no matter how family changes, what makes it wholesome never will. So what is that thing that makes a family wholesome? They fail to identify it, leaving it up to the individual to decide for himself. The conclusion is simple, build a family however you want, throw the rule book out, as long as you&#8217;re more or less nice to each other, then your family will be wholesome!<\/p>\n<p>I submit to you that it is exactly the changes in a family that will determine if it is wholesome or not! Divorce is not wholesome, neither is abuse, polygamy, sodomy, homosexuality, living together outside the bonds of marriage, or any other such &#8220;change&#8221; people might desire to make in their family structure!<\/p>\n<p>What makes a family wholesome isn&#8217;t just their attitude, it&#8217;s also their actions and their decisions.<\/p>\n<h4>What is a blended family?<\/h4>\n<p>The tag in the title for this video is #NotBroken. Their doing their best to show you that divorce doesn&#8217;t mean a family is broken but rather that it&#8217;s &#8220;blended!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Is this what we should\u00a0call a family where mother and father, husband and wife have separated and gone their own way? Logically the terms separation and divorce are polar opposites of the term blended! When I blend things I take separate ingredients and put them together to make one product!<\/p>\n<p>Divorce doesn&#8217;t blend a family, it breaks it!<\/p>\n<p>A blended family is not a family where mother and father live in separate homes, raise someone else&#8217;s kids and sleep with someone other than the parent of their own children!<\/p>\n<p>A truly blended family is one that doesn&#8217;t break vows, one that stays the course, one that is an example of faithfulness and self-sacrificial love. One that stays together despite the difficulties!<\/p>\n<h4>Will the kids really understand?<\/h4>\n<p>In the video Isaac&#8217;s mother or step-mother, I&#8217;m not sure whose voice it was, states,<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;As long as he felt loved and like he wasn&#8217;t pulled between two places, he would understand.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>I admit, in God&#8217;s grace kids who are unfortunate enough to grow up in a broken home can and do thrive and learn not to make the foolish mistakes of their parents!<\/p>\n<p>However, it is naive for parents to think that any child in any divorce will not feel pulled between two places!<\/p>\n<p>It is naive to think that any child in any broken home will ever fully recover from the pain of seeing his parents stop loving\u00a0each other!<\/p>\n<p>It is naive to think that a child&#8217;s young mind can grasp and understand why the fabric of his family has been pulled out from underneath him!<\/p>\n<h4>Does family really come first?<\/h4>\n<p>Isaac&#8217;s dad states,<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;As you blend together, the family comes first.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>This is a nice clich\u00e9 that pretty much anyone would agree with! However, Isaac&#8217;s father is forgetting one basic fact. The first thing in any family is the marriage vow! All families began with it and many families end when it is broken!<\/p>\n<p>For family to really come first, the marriage must be guarded and protected above all! It seems like this guy really does love his kid, unfortunately what he doesn&#8217;t realize is that leaving his son&#8217;s mother is one of the most destructive things he can do to his family!<\/p>\n<p>By nature a divorce always indicates that family did not come first! Something else came before family. Maybe it was selfish desires, maybe it was lack of commitment, maybe it was another woman or another man, maybe it was alcohol, maybe it was a job. Whatever it was it wasn&#8217;t family, because when family comes first, marriage comes first!<\/p>\n<h4>How perfect is perfect enough?<\/h4>\n<p>Isaac&#8217;s mom later states,<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;It&#8217;s who we are, as perfect as we&#8217;re supposed to be.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>No sooner than she says the words above, the following text pops up on the screen;<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;More than 40% of Americans are part of a blended family&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>The message here is clear, everyone&#8217;s doing and it&#8217;s not really that bad so why should we try to live any different? Watching the video it&#8217;s tempting to agree. After all Isaac&#8217;s entire family, including step-parents and step-siblings are playing and laughing together at the beach. It appears that they&#8217;re all best friends and that they regularly get together for family events!<\/p>\n<p>Maybe this is how it works in Isaac&#8217;s family, which makes you wonder why his parents ever got divorced in the first place! However, this situation is not true for 99% of broken families!<\/p>\n<p>Divorced spouses don&#8217;t usually spend their free time together, they don&#8217;t usually relax on the beach together, they don&#8217;t usually throw parties together. And when they do, it&#8217;s often not a peaceful, lovey dovey, everyone being kind to each other type of event!<\/p>\n<p>Divorce might be common now in the US, but that doesn&#8217;t mean we should just settle for it because it&#8217;s perfect enough! No, as with all sin we must continue to fight, to be examples of faithfulness and to teach our children that they should never settle for &#8220;perfect&#8221; enough in the moral arena of their life!<\/p>\n<h4>Why does a graham cracker company care?<\/h4>\n<p>I really don&#8217;t understand this, I mean they&#8217;re selling crackers, not marriage licenses! Why do they even care about the fabric of family life? Why are they trying to redefine family and tell us that everything is wholesome no matter how we choose to live?<\/p>\n<p>I suspect they have an agenda!<\/p>\n<p>Take a look at the video below. Their agenda goes beyond divorce!<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/3UMMn6oVtOc?rel=0\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><strong>Resources:<\/strong> I highly recommend that you listen to Alber Mohler&#8217;s comments in his podcast just a few days ago concerning the condition of the American family.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.albertmohler.com\/2014\/09\/05\/the-briefing-09-05-12-2\/\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>Displacement of any typical family structure in America reflects decline in marriage<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<h4>Question: Why do you think Honey Maid is investing in these videos which seek to redefine the American family?<\/h4>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Yesterday I came across this video from <a href=\"http:\/\/www.honeymaid.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Honey Maid<\/a>, a company that is known for its Graham Crackers and whose tag line is &#8220;This Is Wholesome!&#8221;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4361,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[8,31],"tags":[339,382],"class_list":["post-4360","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-ministry","category-writing","tag-divorce","tag-family"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/wholesome.jpg","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p3izZc-18k","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":4034,"url":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/31-the-biggest-mistake-dads-make\/","url_meta":{"origin":4360,"position":0},"title":"#31 The Biggest Mistake Dads Make","author":"Caleb Suko","date":"June 13, 2014","format":false,"excerpt":"Many fathers are making a big mistake when it comes to raising their children and most of them don't even know they are doing it! 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