{"id":4173,"date":"2014-07-23T07:41:00","date_gmt":"2014-07-23T04:41:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/?p=4173"},"modified":"2014-08-04T21:30:55","modified_gmt":"2014-08-04T18:30:55","slug":"why-we-start-worrying-and-how-to-be-free","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/why-we-start-worrying-and-how-to-be-free\/","title":{"rendered":"Why We Start Worrying and How To Be Free!"},"content":{"rendered":"

To be free from worry is a gift; it\u2019s the gift of deep, blissful sleep and waking with hope for the day!<\/p>\n

Children possess this gift. How can a child go throughout his day without being bothered by the worries and cares of this life? There is a very simple reason – he has perfect trust that his mother and father will provide for his every need. He has never known otherwise. His parents have always clothed him, fed him, comforted him, played with him, sheltered him, and held him close in their arms. Thus, he plays with blissful ease not knowing and not caring that there is a frightfully dangerous world right outside the warm safety of his parents\u2019 home.<\/p>\n

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Special note: This post is an\u00a0excerpt from chapter one of my new book\u00a0“What If… How to Kill Worry and Anxiety Before They Kill You”<\/a>\u00a0You can order it now on Amazon<\/a><\/span>“.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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\nWith maturity comes knowledge of the outside world and responsibility. Often when responsibility comes, so does worry. Let me tell you about how it started in my life.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll admit, I tend to be a pretty laid back type of guy, but appearances aren\u2019t everything. I can worry too! A couple of years after my wife and I married, we started a small painting business. I bought one of those white utility vans with the ladder racks on top, like the telephone company uses. We lived in Tacoma, Washington, in a part of town that tended to have a lot of drug activity and the crime that goes along with it. Since we were poor seminary students, we could not afford to rent a house with a nice garage where I could park my van. That meant my work van, which was loaded with tools for my painting business, sat out on the street every night.<\/p>\n

Honestly, I didn\u2019t give it too much thought. I just parked the van on the street in front of our apartment building every night and in the morning it was always there waiting for me. Then one night it happened! They broke the sliding door window and very conveniently removed the contents of my van!<\/p>\n

In the morning I got ready for work as usual and headed out the door to find a mess of broken glass on the pavement next to my van. Immediately my stress level shot up; a thousand thoughts invaded my mind and my pulse began to race! Who did this? Where are my tools? How am I going to work today? Where am I going to find the money to replace these things? What\u2019s my wife going to say?<\/p>\n

I began to ask questions and I began to worry. As a result, I decided to change the way I did a few things. I ordered metal bars for the windows in my van, installed an alarm, and found a nearby storage unit where I could unload most of my valuable tools at night.<\/p>\n

Despite the fact that I had made all these changes, I still worried. For the next couple of months my ears were sensitive to the sound of car alarms. I thought every alarm was mine. Several times I got up in the middle of the night to investigate strange noises I had heard outside! Even though my van was technically more secure than it was before the theft, I was now more uneasy about things.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s compare my situation with the child I described at the beginning of the chapter. The child doesn\u2019t worry because he trusts his parents. However, he also doesn\u2019t worry because he lacks knowledge of the dangers of the outside world. Before the break-in, I was like the child.<\/p>\n

Yes, I knew that it was theoretically possible for someone to break the window and steal my tools, however, it didn\u2019t worry me because I hadn\u2019t personally experienced it. The lack of personal experience kept me ignorant of the real danger and allowed me to \u201csleep like a baby\u201d every night. The problem is that once I went through the experience, it was impossible to go back to the previous state of ignorance.<\/p>\n

Sleeping Through the Storm<\/h4>\n

Now let\u2019s take a minute and look at Jesus. Here\u2019s a guy that could sleep through anything! Remember when Jesus went out on the lake with the disciples? Jesus was sleeping right through a powerful storm that was threatening to sink their boat!<\/p>\n

And as they sailed he fell asleep. And a windstorm came down on the lake, and they were filling with water and were in danger. And they went and woke him, saying, “Master, Master, we are perishing!” And he awoke and rebuked the wind and the raging waves, and they ceased, and there was a calm.
\n(Luke 8:23-24)<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

There\u2019s no question that the disciples were worried in this passage. They didn\u2019t gently tap Jesus on the shoulder and say, \u201cMaster, if you\u2019re not too tired, we could use a little help now.\u201d They repeatedly called for him, \u201cMaster, Master!\u201d They made the situation look dire, \u201cWe\u2019re going to die!\u201d They didn\u2019t just tell him, they kept telling him!<\/p>\n

The disciples couldn\u2019t sleep in the storm, but Jesus could!<\/p>\n

What was the first thing Jesus said to the disciples after he woke up? You\u2019d think he\u2019d say something like, \u201cWow, you weren\u2019t kidding – that really is a terrible storm!\u201d, or maybe he\u2019d say, \u201cSorry for sleeping, guys; but don\u2019t worry – everything will be OK now.\u201d<\/p>\n

Jesus\u2019 response must have shocked the disciples.<\/p>\n

He said to them, “Where is your faith?” And they were afraid, and they marveled, saying to one another, “Who then is this, that he commands even winds and water, and they obey him?”
\n(Luke 8:25)<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

After rebuking the wind and the waves, Jesus turns right around and rebukes the disciples for their lack of faith. It was the absence of faith that kept them on edge, didn\u2019t allow them to sleep, and caused them to wake Jesus in their desperation.<\/p>\n

Babies sleep like babies because they haven\u2019t yet experienced all the dangers and problems in life. Their worry-free sleep is what we sometimes call \u201cblissful ignorance\u201d. On the other hand, Jesus could sleep despite the fact that he knew there was a storm going on. Jesus could sleep because he had perfect trust in the Father.<\/p>\n

You and I don\u2019t have the luxury of sleeping in blissful ignorance. If you\u2019re old enough to read this book, then you are old enough to know that there are very unpleasant things in this life, things that can keep you up at night.<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve had painful experiences, or heard about others who did, and now we want to avoid them. As our minds struggle to find a way out, to protect us from the dangers of life, we can easily slip into a pattern of worry.<\/p>\n

Worry rarely starts suddenly. It begins small and innocent; it\u2019s almost hard to recognize at first. We want to look for solutions to possible problems, we want to avoid difficult situations; pain, sickness, and death. This is not wrong. However, our desire to avoid the difficult and distressing things of life can quickly lead to unwarranted fears and a destructive fixation upon the problem and the possible results.<\/p>\n

No, worry doesn\u2019t usually start suddenly, but when it\u2019s not dealt with, it will eventually drag your mind into a deep pit of fear, anxiety, and apprehension. The deeper you go into this pattern of thought, the harder it will be for you to dig yourselves out. It will seem impossible for you not to think about it. Your mind will play through the possibilities over and over again. You become restless, irritated, feeling like you need to do something but not knowing what to do.<\/p>\n

Worry infests the mind like maggots, destroying us from the inside out! It paralyzes us with fear, fills us with doubt, and crowds out our ability to think logically and rationally.<\/p>\n

There is really only one way out of the pit worry and that is up! Jesus gave us a great example as he slept through the storm. He also pointed us to the only real hope that we have, the only thing that has the ability to rescue us from the depths of our worry!<\/p>\n

A Call for Faith<\/h4>\n

Jesus reprimanded the disciples for their lack of faith, their failure to believe, their inability to trust. The faith that Jesus was talking about is not a general faith that is often referred to in today\u2019s popular culture. It is not faith in some higher good or simply having a positive outlook in life. It most certainly is not faith in yourself, in your abilities or talents. Jesus called us to a faith much higher than ourselves. He called us to believe in the only thing that can actually lift us from our worries and set us on solid ground.<\/p>\n

Jesus called for faith in himself!<\/h4>\n

After all, he had just proved that he was able to calm the storm with his words. Who has power like that?<\/p>\n

When it comes down to it, worry is nothing more than your mind desperately looking for a solution to all your problems. When you come to Jesus, you find the ultimate solution. Your tired mind can stop searching; Jesus is the complete answer!<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong, Jesus doesn\u2019t promise that when you put your faith in him that he will protect you from all pain and hardship in this life. His promise is much greater! He promises to give you a hope that reaches beyond this momentary life, he guarantees a joy and peace that is much deeper than your temporary struggles. He promises to take your worries upon himself and free you from their weight, but this can\u2019t happen until you begin to trust him!<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re like me, then you have gone through things in your life that could give you reason to worry. You can\u2019t un-experience what you have experienced and you can\u2019t un-know what you have learned, so that leaves you with only two possibilities. You either choose to make worry an everyday part of your life, or began a life of trust in Jesus and start sleeping well again!<\/p>\n

Question: How did you start worrying?<\/h4>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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