{"id":3001,"date":"2013-09-05T18:54:34","date_gmt":"2013-09-05T15:54:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/?p=3001"},"modified":"2018-01-11T06:17:51","modified_gmt":"2018-01-11T04:17:51","slug":"7-ways-to-fail-as-a-missionary","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/7-ways-to-fail-as-a-missionary\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Ways to Fail as a Missionary"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Missionaries are not superheroes. If you&#8217;re a missionary hopefully you know that by now!<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve failed more than once as a missionary and that&#8217;s why I want to share with you some common ways that missionaries can fail.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes it&#8217;s helpful to look at our mistakes so that we can learn from them and make the changes necessary to\u00a0facilitate growth in our lives.<\/p>\n<p>Here are seven ways you can fail as a missionary!<\/p>\n<h4>1. Fail to learn the language<\/h4>\n<p>When a missionary is new to the field there can often be a sense of urgency, a rush to jump into ministry and get things done!<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately that rush often leads to over reliance on translators. If you do not stop at some point to seriously study the language you will be very unlikely to ever make enough progress to work completely on your own.<\/p>\n<p>Time dedicated early on to language learning will pay off big in the end.<\/p>\n<h4>2. Fail to engage the culture<\/h4>\n<p>The differences of a new culture can scare you, however, missionaries who &#8220;cubby hole&#8221; and don&#8217;t get out and engage with society \u00a0are setting themselves up for failure.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s ok to have some things that remind you of your home country in your house \u00a0but it&#8217;s not ok to insulate yourself from your new culture.<\/p>\n<p>You can insulate yourself by:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Spending more time with other expatriates than with nationals.<\/li>\n<li>Not building meaningful relationships with your neighbors.<\/li>\n<li>Spending all your free time interacting with all your American friends online.<\/li>\n<li>Having a home that you never invite nationals into.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4>3. Fail to communicate<\/h4>\n<p>30 years ago it was ok to send a newsletter once a month or even once a quarter! \u00a0Today that is simply not acceptable.<\/p>\n<p>Today if you want to know what your friends and family are up to you can check social networks like <a title=\"facebook\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/caleb.suko\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Facebook<\/a>, <a title=\"twitter\" href=\"http:\/\/twitter.com\/sukofamily\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Twitter<\/a> or <a title=\"youtube\" href=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/SukoFamily\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Youtube<\/a> and be almost instantly updated.<\/p>\n<p>I recommend that missionaries communicate with their supporters 2-4 times a month via email. Updates on social networks can be more frequent, from several times a week to several times a day.<\/p>\n<h4>4. Fail to care for your own spiritual needs<\/h4>\n<p>Missions is a spiritual battle! Christina and I realized this shortly after we arrived in Ukraine. We knew it theoretically before but we had never experienced it until we got on the field.<\/p>\n<p>Missionaries need a source of spiritual life, they need fellowship with other believers, they need to know that they are not alone, they need someone who can speak truth into their own lives.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes those things can be hard to find on the mission field, however, they are vital and missionaries who succeed have found them.<\/p>\n<h4>5. Fail to care for your health<\/h4>\n<p>In my experience health problems often force missionaries to leave the field. \u00a0Some of this is an unavoidable result of aging.<\/p>\n<p>However, many of the health problems missionaries experience are the result of many years of disregard for basic principles of diet and health. \u00a0Mission work can tax you spiritually, emotionally and physically!<\/p>\n<p>Simply getting daily exercise, not over eating and eating a healthy diet can make a world of difference. Over the long run a healthy physical lifestyle will result in more energy to minister and maybe more years to minister as well!<\/p>\n<h4>6. Fail to care for your family<\/h4>\n<p>I&#8217;m not really sure how big of a factor each of these are but I&#8217;d put this one right near the top. Family issues are at the core of why many missionaries choose to leave their field.<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, many children and wives are left with the feeling that the ministry has stolen their father\/husband. This can have devastating results on the family. Missionaries who don&#8217;t put a priority on their family&#8217;s well-being will end up losing out in the end.<\/p>\n<h4>7. Fail to love people<\/h4>\n<p>Do I really need to say anything here?<\/p>\n<p>Yes, I do!<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s the thing, no one in their right mind would tell you that they think we shouldn&#8217;t love people. \u00a0However, when it comes down to it loving people is not always as easy as we might think.<\/p>\n<p>People are messy, people say mean things, people do stupid things, people can disrespect you, people can lack gratitude and be dishonest and I&#8217;m just talking about myself!!!<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes people come with nice packaging but inside is always a complicated, twisted and broken heart that&#8217;s in need of mending!<\/p>\n<p>Yes, loving people is the most difficult thing a missionary does and the most important!<\/p>\n<h4>I&#8217;m not done yet!<\/h4>\n<p>Talking about failure too much can make you depressed\u00a0and that&#8217;s not what I want from this post. This weekend I&#8217;m recording a new episode of <a title=\"Now is the Time\" href=\"http:\/\/click.linksynergy.com\/fs-bin\/stat?id=XLFd9yeMpt0&amp;offerid=146261&amp;type=3&amp;subid=0&amp;tmpid=1826&amp;RD_PARM1=https%253A%252F%252Fitunes.apple.com%252Fus%252Fpodcast%252Fnow-is-the-time-with-caleb-suko%252Fid658436314%253Fmt%253D2%2526uo%253D4%2526partnerId%253D30\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&#8220;Now is the Time&#8221;<\/a> podcast where I&#8217;ll be focusing on characteristics of a successful missionary, so please don&#8217;t miss the podcast!<\/p>\n<p>You can also join the conversation by answering the question below. I&#8217;ll be including some of your answers in the podcast.<\/p>\n<h4>Question: Share some examples from your life of a successful missionary. What made them successful?<\/h4>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Missionaries are not superheroes. If you&#8217;re a missionary hopefully you know that by now!<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve failed more than once as a missionary and that&#8217;s why I want to share with you some common ways that missionaries can fail.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3002,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[8,31],"tags":[64,253],"class_list":["post-3001","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-ministry","category-writing","tag-missions","tag-top-5"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/09\/photo-41.jpg","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p3izZc-Mp","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":3017,"url":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/08-profile-of-a-successful-missionary\/","url_meta":{"origin":3001,"position":0},"title":"#08 Profile of a Successful Missionary -Podcast","author":"Caleb Suko","date":"September 7, 2013","format":false,"excerpt":"This week I shared with you 7 Ways to Fail as a Missionary\u00a0and I promised that I would follow it up with characteristics of a successful missionary. 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