{"id":2499,"date":"2013-04-17T13:19:51","date_gmt":"2013-04-17T10:19:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/?p=2499"},"modified":"2013-05-02T17:03:16","modified_gmt":"2013-05-02T14:03:16","slug":"what-do-you-complain-about","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/what-do-you-complain-about\/","title":{"rendered":"What Do You Complain About?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>During my\u00a0high school\u00a0years I used to do some work for an older lady who loved to complain. What did she complain about? She had the terrible skill of turning almost anything that was wholesome and positive into a complaint. A typical conversation would go something like this:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Me: &#8220;Good morning! Isn&#8217;t it a beautiful day?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Her: &#8220;It would have been if those birds didn&#8217;t start singing at 4:30 am and wake me up!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Me: &#8220;Oh well at least you got an early start to the day.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Her: &#8220;And now I&#8217;m so tired I&#8217;ll probably get nothing at all done today!&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>As you can imagine people didn&#8217;t really enjoy being around her. How did I manage? Honestly, I&#8217;m not really sure but I think it had something to do with the fact that I had the skill of keeping my mouth shut and just\u00a0getting\u00a0the work done.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"2508\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/what-do-you-complain-about\/sony-dsc-155\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/DSC03501.jpg\" data-orig-size=\"640,359\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;10&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;Picasa&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;NEX-3&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1366205115&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;55&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;800&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.05&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;SONY DSC&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"SONY DSC\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/DSC03501.jpg\" class=\"size-full wp-image-2508 aligncenter\" alt=\"SONY DSC\" src=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/DSC03501.jpg\" width=\"640\" height=\"359\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/DSC03501.jpg 640w, https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/DSC03501-300x168.jpg 300w, https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/DSC03501-600x336.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>One thing I learned from that woman was that complainers like their complaints to be heard and they really like it when people respond to their complaints with phrases like &#8220;Poor you!&#8221; or &#8220;How terrible!&#8221; and even better &#8220;I can&#8217;t\u00a0believe\u00a0you have suffered so much!&#8221; \u00a0If you simply quit reacting to their complaints they&#8217;ll soon stop their grumbling or at least they&#8217;ll tone it down a bit.<\/p>\n<h4>Complainers in the Bible<\/h4>\n<p>This week I&#8217;m teaching the book of Numbers in our Bible survey class. If you ever want to hear some good complainers that&#8217;s the book to go to! When the Israelites left Egypt they stopped being slaves and instead became full-time complainers!<\/p>\n<p>What did the Israelites complain about?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong><span style=\"font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;\">They were generally discontent <\/span><span style=\"font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youversion.com\/bible\/111\/num.11.1.niv\" target=\"_blank\">Num 11:1<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong><span style=\"font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;\">They complained about the food <\/span><span style=\"font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youversion.com\/bible\/111\/num.11.4.niv\" target=\"_blank\">Num 11:4-6<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong><span style=\"font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;\">They complained about the leadership <\/span><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a style=\"font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youversion.com\/bible\/111\/num.14.1.niv\" target=\"_blank\">Num 14:1-4<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong><span style=\"font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;\">They complained about how God had disciplined them <\/span><span style=\"font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youversion.com\/bible\/111\/num.16.41.niv\" target=\"_blank\">Num 16:41<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong><span style=\"font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;\">They complained about the direction God was taking them \u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youversion.com\/bible\/111\/num.21.5.niv\" target=\"_blank\">Num 21:5<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Reading about all this complaining reminded me of a few things.<\/p>\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 1em; line-height: 19px;\">Complaints are self focused<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 1em; line-height: 19px;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h4>\n<p>Have you ever noticed that people who like to complain never complain about other people&#8217;s problems. By nature complaints are self-centered and myopic. When we complain we fail to see the bigger picture of what God is doing in our life and in the lives of others!<\/p>\n<h4>Complaints never get you very far<\/h4>\n<p>Complainers are a pain to be around because they never really do anything to change their situation except grumble about it. In reality they shoot themselves in the foot. If you want to make progress in life you&#8217;ll do well by shutting your mouth and getting to work. I like how Paul says it. <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youversion.com\/bible\/111\/1ti.6.6.niv\" target=\"_blank\">&#8220;But godliness with contentment is great gain!&#8221;<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<h4>Complaints are an accusation against God<\/h4>\n<p>You may not realize it but every time you complain you are accusing God of either acting unjustly or unwisely. It&#8217;s like saying &#8220;God if you really knew what you were doing you wouldn&#8217;t have allowed this to happen to me!&#8221;<\/p>\n<h4>Complaints can have deadly\u00a0consequences<\/h4>\n<p>Don&#8217;t brush off your complaints and discontentment as no big deal. When the Israelites complained God took it so seriously and\u00a0consumed\u00a0 some of them with fire!<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Eventually, the people began complaining about their distress, and the LORD heard them. When the LORD heard, his anger flared up and the LORD&#8217;s fire incinerated some of them within the outskirts of the camp. Numbers 11:1<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h4>Question: What are you tempted to complain about? How do you overcome the temptation to complain?<\/h4>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>During my\u00a0high school\u00a0years I used to do some work for an older lady who loved to complain. 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