{"id":12573,"date":"2020-09-03T13:06:13","date_gmt":"2020-09-03T10:06:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/?p=12573"},"modified":"2020-09-03T13:06:16","modified_gmt":"2020-09-03T10:06:16","slug":"our-son-left-us-and-this-is-how-we-dealt-with-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/our-son-left-us-and-this-is-how-we-dealt-with-it\/","title":{"rendered":"Our Son Left Us and This Is How We Dealt With It"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Recently our oldest son <a href=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/godspeed-mishael\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Mishael<\/a> left us and moved to the US. This is our second child to leave the home. In this episode Christina and I talk about how we deal with children leaving the home and we give some advice that helped us. We also talk about some gospel principles that are vital in these transitions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed-youtube wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/KyyyW3jYqxk?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Below are links to some topics in the video:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Christina&#8217;s ministry at the women&#8217;s center: (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=KyyyW3jYqxk&amp;t=70s\">1:10<\/a>)<\/li><li>Church\/Coronavirus update: (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=KyyyW3jYqxk&amp;t=182s\">3:02<\/a>)<\/li><li>The kids new school year: (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=KyyyW3jYqxk&amp;t=237s\">3:57<\/a>)<\/li><li>Seminar teaching: (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=KyyyW3jYqxk&amp;t=290s\">4:50<\/a>)<\/li><li>About Mishael leaving us: (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=KyyyW3jYqxk&amp;t=315s\">5:15<\/a>)<\/li><li>Christina&#8217;s thoughts about Mishael leaving: (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=KyyyW3jYqxk&amp;t=396s\">6:36<\/a>)<\/li><li>Caleb&#8217;s thoughts about Mishael leaving (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=KyyyW3jYqxk&amp;t=488s\">8:08<\/a>)<\/li><li>Comparing our oldest daughter leaving the house vs our son (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=KyyyW3jYqxk&amp;t=583s\">9:43<\/a>)<\/li><li>What we wish we had taught him before he left (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=KyyyW3jYqxk&amp;t=845s\">14:05<\/a>)<\/li><li>What was the hardest part about letting your kids go? (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=KyyyW3jYqxk&amp;t=950s\">15:50<\/a>)<\/li><li>What helps you get through this? (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=KyyyW3jYqxk&amp;t=1077s\">17:57<\/a>)<\/li><li>Raising a child to leave you (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=KyyyW3jYqxk&amp;t=1156s\">19:16<\/a>)<\/li><li>How the principle of discipleship leads to a healthy transition <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=KyyyW3jYqxk&amp;t=1445s\">24:05<\/a><\/li><li>How trusting God leads to a healthy transition (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=KyyyW3jYqxk&amp;t=1734s\">28:54<\/a>)<\/li><li>How continued relationship leads to a healthy transition (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=KyyyW3jYqxk&amp;t=1848s\">30:48<\/a>)<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Listen to the audio version<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/player.blubrry.com\/?media_url=https%3A%2F%2Fmedia.blubrry.com%2Fnowisthetime%2Fcontent.blubrry.com%2Fnowisthetime%2FTGT_S01E09.mp3&amp;modern=1&amp;podcast_link=https%3A%2F%2Fsukofamily.org%2Four-son-left-us-and-this-is-how-we-dealt-with-it%2F#mode-Light&border-000000&progress-000000\" scrolling=\"no\" width=\"100%\" height=\"165\" frameborder=\"0\" id=\"blubrryplayer-1\" class=\"blubrryplayer\" title=\"Blubrry Podcast Player\"><\/iframe><p class=\"powerpress_links powerpress_links_mp3\" style=\"margin-bottom: 1px !important;\">Podcast: <a href=\"https:\/\/media.blubrry.com\/nowisthetime\/content.blubrry.com\/nowisthetime\/TGT_S01E09.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_pinw\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Play in new window\" onclick=\"return powerpress_pinw('https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/?powerpress_pinw=12573-podcast');\" rel=\"nofollow\">Play in new window<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/media.blubrry.com\/nowisthetime\/content.blubrry.com\/nowisthetime\/TGT_S01E09.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_d\" title=\"Download\" rel=\"nofollow\" download=\"TGT_S01E09.mp3\">Download<\/a> (Duration: 36:18 &#8212; 67.2MB) | <a href=\"#\" class=\"powerpress_link_e\" title=\"Embed\" onclick=\"return powerpress_show_embed('12573-podcast');\" rel=\"nofollow\">Embed<\/a><\/p><p class=\"powerpress_embed_box\" id=\"powerpress_embed_12573-podcast\" style=\"display: none;\"><input id=\"powerpress_embed_12573-podcast_t\" type=\"text\" value=\"&lt;iframe src=&quot;https:\/\/player.blubrry.com\/?media_url=https%3A%2F%2Fmedia.blubrry.com%2Fnowisthetime%2Fcontent.blubrry.com%2Fnowisthetime%2FTGT_S01E09.mp3&amp;modern=1&amp;podcast_link=https%3A%2F%2Fsukofamily.org%2Four-son-left-us-and-this-is-how-we-dealt-with-it%2F#mode-Light&amp;border-000000&amp;progress-000000&quot; scrolling=&quot;no&quot; width=&quot;100%&quot; height=&quot;165&quot; frameborder=&quot;0&quot; id=&quot;blubrryplayer-2&quot; class=&quot;blubrryplayer&quot; title=&quot;Blubrry Podcast Player&quot;&gt;&lt;\/iframe&gt;\" onclick=\"javascript: this.select();\" onfocus=\"javascript: this.select();\" style=\"width: 70%;\" readOnly><\/p><p class=\"powerpress_links powerpress_subscribe_links\">Subscribe: <a href=\"https:\/\/subscribebyemail.com\/feeds.blubrry.com\/feeds\/nowisthetime.xml\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_email\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe by Email\" rel=\"nofollow\">Email<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/feeds.blubrry.com\/feeds\/nowisthetime.xml\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_rss\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe via RSS\" rel=\"nofollow\">RSS<\/a><\/p><!--powerpress_player-->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Recently our oldest son <a href=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/godspeed-mishael\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Mishael<\/a> left us and moved to the US. 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