{"id":1166,"date":"2012-08-20T16:51:23","date_gmt":"2012-08-20T13:51:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/?p=1166"},"modified":"2013-01-30T10:44:25","modified_gmt":"2013-01-30T08:44:25","slug":"the-5th-commandment-its-not-just-for-kids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/the-5th-commandment-its-not-just-for-kids\/","title":{"rendered":"The 5th Commandment, it&#8217;s not just for Kids!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever thought about the fifth commandment, I mean really thought about it? Maybe I should first ask,&#8221; do you even remember what the fifth commandment is?&#8221;\u00a0if you forgot here is a reminder:<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>\u00a0\u201cHonor your father and your mother, that you may live a long time in the lands the Lord your God is giving to you.&#8221;\u00a0Exodus 20:12<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>At first glance it seems like a great little verse for primary Sunday school classes. If you are a parent with kids at home you&#8217;re probably thinking, &#8220;Thank you God!&#8221; However, <strong>I believe we have confined this commandment to the realm of junior church and adolescents for far to long!<\/strong>\u00a0 It&#8217;s time to take a serious look at one of the greatest laws ever given to man!<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_1167\" style=\"width: 650px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-1167\" data-attachment-id=\"1167\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/the-5th-commandment-its-not-just-for-kids\/img_0367-2\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/IMG_03671.jpg\" data-orig-size=\"640,360\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;2.8&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;Picasa&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;iPhone 4&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1344110335&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;3.85&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;80&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.0033783783783784&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"I am very grateful for the impact my parents have had on my life!\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/IMG_03671.jpg\" class=\"size-full wp-image-1167\" title=\"I am very grateful for the impact my parents have had on my life!\" src=\"http:\/\/69.89.31.195\/~sukofami\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/IMG_03671.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/IMG_03671.jpg 640w, https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/IMG_03671-300x168.jpg 300w, https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/IMG_03671-460x260.jpg 460w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-1167\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">I am grateful for the impact my parents have had on my life!<\/p><\/div>\n<p><strong>1. It deals with the most important of human relationships<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Commandments 1-4 all deal with our personal relationship with God. \u00a0The 5th commandment is the first that touches on our human relationships.<\/p>\n<p>The parent\/child relationship more closely resembles our relationship with God than any\u00a0other relationship on earth. Here are a few was this is\u00a0a unique relationship:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>We did not choose our parents yet we are called to honor and obey them<\/li>\n<li>Our parents\u00a0generally love us unconditionally<\/li>\n<li>Our parents\u00a0provide for us<\/li>\n<li>Our parents\u00a0are smarter\/wiser than us<\/li>\n<li>Our parents\u00a0are stronger than us<\/li>\n<li>Our parents\u00a0created us<\/li>\n<li>Our parents\u00a0sacrifice more for us than anyone else<\/li>\n<li>Our parents\u00a0protect us<\/li>\n<li>Our parents\u00a0teach us<\/li>\n<li>Our parents\u00a0lead us<\/li>\n<li>Our parents\u00a0know us better than we know ourselves<\/li>\n<li>It is our first relationship<\/li>\n<li>We bear a resemblance to our parents<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Did you notice that everything on the above list can also be said of our relationship with God? For this very reason the parent\/child relationship is the best gauge of our relationship with God!<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. It was written primarily to adults<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve noticed that we often have a tendency to\u00a0trivialize\u00a0Biblical truths until they don&#8217;t apply to us anymore or at least until we feel that they are so insignificant that they are only worthy of teaching to 5 year olds! \u00a0This is exactly what many have done with the fifth commandment.<\/p>\n<p>The truth is that the fifth commandment was <strong>NOT<\/strong>\u00a0primarily written to young children! It was written to fully grown adults like you and me. \u00a0If you don&#8217;t believe me then read a little further <a href=\"http:\/\/bible.us\/exod21.15.net\" target=\"_blank\">Exodus 21:15<\/a> and <a href=\"http:\/\/bible.us\/deut21.18-21.net\" target=\"_blank\">Deuteronomy 21:18-21<\/a> both give the death penalty for breaking the fifth commandment!\u00a0I don&#8217;t think were talking about stoning a five-year-old for being disrespectful to his mother.<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately Western culture is know for its independence and that includes independence of children from their parents once they reach the magical number of 18! \u00a0The Bible doesn&#8217;t have an expiration date for the 5th commandment. \u00a0On the contrary, the older we get the more we are expected to understand this commandment and apply it to our relationship with our parents and elders!<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. It calls for respect,\u00a0not absolute obedience<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sometimes we forget that this commandment does not include the word &#8220;obey&#8221;. \u00a0This is because it is directed towards adult children who, hopefully no longer need the instruction that was given by their parents before they reached adulthood.<\/p>\n<p>The verb in this commandment calls us to &#8220;respect&#8221; or &#8220;honor&#8221; our parents. \u00a0This may or may not include obedience but it will certainly include an attitude of gratitude, thoughtfulness, kindness and care for our parents, especially as they age and need our help.<\/p>\n<p><strong>4. It doesn&#8217;t give parents the right to demand respect<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>As a parent of young children it is very tempting to read this verse to my kids and then demand that they obey my words as a soldier carrying out his CO&#8217;s commands! However, I have to remind myself that this commandment is written to children and not to parents!<\/p>\n<p>If I want my children to respect me then I need to make sure I am living in a way that deserves that respect. Do you want to know the honest truth, do you want to know if you walk the walk and not just talk the talk? To find the answer all you need to do is ask your children, they&#8217;ll tell you and they won&#8217;t bend the truth to make you feel better about yourself!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Questions for personal evaluation<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>1. What&#8217;s your relationship with your parents like? Does it reflect your relationship with God?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>2. Does your speech give honor to your parents even when they are not around?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>3. What specific actions can you take to show your parents respect and honor?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>4. Do you demand the obedience of your own children or are you living in a way to gain their respect?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Questions for discussion<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>1. Could obedience to the 5th commandment save our country money by eliminating much of the need for Social Security?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>2. Is it ok to send an elderly parent off the nursing home so that the children are not &#8220;burdened&#8221; by their care?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>recommended reading<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0802454887\/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=0802454887&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=sukfam-20\">Words From the Fire: Hearing the Voice of God in the 10 Commandments<\/a><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/www.assoc-amazon.com\/e\/ir?t=sukfam-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=0802454887\" alt=\"\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" border=\"0\" \/><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0802454887\/ref=as_li_ss_il?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=0802454887&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=sukfam-20\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/ws.assoc-amazon.com\/widgets\/q?_encoding=UTF8&amp;ASIN=0802454887&amp;Format=_SL160_&amp;ID=AsinImage&amp;MarketPlace=US&amp;ServiceVersion=20070822&amp;WS=1&amp;tag=sukfam-20\" alt=\"\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" style=\"border: none !important; margin: 0px !important;\" src=\"http:\/\/www.assoc-amazon.com\/e\/ir?t=sukfam-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=0802454887\" alt=\"\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" border=\"0\" \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever thought about the fifth commandment, I mean really thought about it? Maybe I should first ask,&#8221; do you even remember what the fifth commandment is?&#8221;\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1167,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[31],"tags":[191,192,187],"class_list":["post-1166","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-writing","tag-10-commandments","tag-5th-commandments","tag-parents"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/IMG_03671.jpg","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p3izZc-iO","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":1042,"url":"https:\/\/sukofamily.org\/10-ways-you-might-be-breaking-the-3rd-commandment\/","url_meta":{"origin":1166,"position":0},"title":"10 Ways You Might be Breaking the 3rd Commandment","author":"Caleb Suko","date":"July 11, 2012","format":false,"excerpt":"Exodus 20:7 \"You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain, for the Lord will not hold him guiltless who takes his name in vain. 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